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Raising Saints Sooner

If you are a devoted follower of Jesus, you already know that the purpose of this life is to become more like Him. All good church traditions teach this.

This site contains essays and videos that give you very specific techniques that help you to raise your kids to be more as Jesus, sooner. To prepare them to be a blessing to each other, you, and everyone they meet. To prepare each of them for a life of other centered service.

Save my spot What this will be
Patrick speaking into a microphone at a gathering
My son Patrick and his mother Kari. This video is proof that the techniques taught here truly work. About 5 minutes, please watch.

What we’re building

Free help for the work that matters most.

Raising Family Right is a faith-based resource for families who believe a child can be taught to love God, honor truth, and grow a sturdy character — in a world that will not do that work for you.

Scripture first

Not slogans. The actual Word, brought into the kitchen, the car, bedtime, and the hard conversations.

From people who have parented

We are teacher grandparents. We have raised children, lost children, and kept going. This will not be theory.

Always free

No course funnel. No ads. No selling your name. If the Lord lets us write something useful, it should not have a paywall.

  • Forming character before the world does
  • Prayer, scripture, and the dinner table
  • Discipline that loves
  • Screens, schools, and other modern tests
  • What grandparents are still for
Trey, Kari, TJ, and Patrick Tomeny standing together in their home
Trey, Kari, TJ, and Patrick Tomeny, as featured in a Wall St. Journal cover story in December of 2003.

Who we are

A Latter Day Saint now.

Unfortunately, as is often the case, my first marriage did not survive the death of TJ at age 14. It set me on a path of spiritual seeking that eventually, and miraculously, brought me to The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. That story is told in this 26 minute video, if you are interested.

I am now happily married to Ellice Taylor Tomeny, a lifelong Saint of pioneer heritage. We live in Orem, Utah. Between us we have nine children and seven grandchildren, and one great grandchild. Ellice has taught art in public school since 2015. I have spent much of my life teaching, building, and trying to put good tools in the hands of families.

Ellice shares in one of life’s heaviest burdens: each of us has buried a child. Trey’s oldest son, TJ, went to be with Jesus in 2005 at fourteen. Ellice’s middle son, Joshua, entered eternity in 2016 at twenty-five. That grief has not made us softer on truth. It has made us more urgent about what we can do to help others with parenting.

This is the beginning of a work we want to leave for parents who still believe children can be raised right.